Demystifying the language: LGBTQ Definitions

Demystifying the language: LGBTQ Definitions

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I recently read a great article in USA Today which helps to explain the range of terms used within the LGBTQ community.  It’s a great guide for allies  but be aware that many have been used in a derogatory way by straight, white, cisgender (defined below!) people, and were reclaimed over time by the LGBTQ community.

Here’s the transcript of Sara Snyder’s article in full:

This list is by no means exhaustive, and some of these terms — because they are so personal — likely mean slightly different things to different people. If you’re puzzled by a term and feel like you can ask someone you love in the LGBTQ community to help you make sense of it, do it. But also be careful not to put the burden of your education on other people when there’s a whole wide world of resources out there.

LGBTQ: The acronym for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer.” Some people also use the Q to stand for “questioning,” meaning people who are figuring out their sexual orientation or gender identity. You may also see LGBT+, LGBT*, LGBTx, or LGBTQIA.    I stands for intersex and A for asexual/aromantic/agender. The “A” has also been used by some to refer to “ally.”   Speaking of intersex: Born with sex characteristics such as genitals or chromosomes that do not fit the typical definitions of male or female. About 1.7% of the population is intersex, according to the United Nations.   Sex: The biological differences between male and female.  

Gender: The societal constructions we assign to male and female. When you hear someone say “gender stereotypes,” they’re referring to the ways we expect men/boys and women/girls to act and behave.  

Queer: Originally used as a pejorative slur, queer has now become an umbrella term to describe the myriad ways people reject binary categories of gender and sexual orientation to express who they are. People who identify as queer embrace identities and sexual orientations outside of mainstream heterosexual and gender norms.  

Sexual orientation: How a person characterizes their sexuality. “There are three distinct components of sexual orientation,” said Ryan Watson, a professor of Human Development & Family Studies at the University of Connecticut. “It’s comprised of identity (I’m gay), behavior (I have sex with the same gender) and attraction (I’m sexually attracted to the same gender), and all three might not line up for all people.” (Don’t say “sexual preference,” which implies it’s a choice and easily changed.)  

Gay: A sexual orientation that describes a person who is emotionally or sexually attracted to people of their own gender; commonly used to describe men.  

Lesbian: A woman who is emotionally or sexually attracted to other women.  

Bisexual: A person who is emotionally or sexually attracted to more than one sex or gender.  

Pansexual: A person who can be attracted to all different kinds of people, regardless of their biological sex or gender identity. Miley Cyrus opened up last year about identifying as pansexual.  

Asexual: A person who experiences no sexual attraction to other people.

Demisexual: Someone who doesn’t develop sexual attraction to anyone until they have a strong emotional connection.

Same-gender loving: A term some in the African-American community use instead of lesbian, gay or bisexual to express sexual attraction to people of the same gender.  

Aromantic: A person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to others.  

Gender identity: One’s concept of self as male, female or neither (see “genderqueer”). A person’s gender identity may not align with their sex at birth; not the same as sexual orientation.  

Gender role: The social behaviors that culture assigns to each sex. Examples: Girls play with dolls, boys play with trucks; women are nurturing, men are stoic.  

Gender expression: How we express ourgender identity. It can refer to our hair, the clothes we wear, the way we speak. It’s all the ways we do and don’t conform to the socially defined behaviors of masculine or feminine.​  

Transgender: A person whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.  

Cisgender: A person whose gender identity aligns with the sex they were assigned at birth.  

Binary: The concept of dividing sex or gender into two clear categories. Sex is male or female, gender is masculine or feminine.  

Non-binary: Someone who doesn’t identify exclusively as female/male.  

Genderqueer: People who reject static, conventional categories of gender and embrace fluid ideas of gender (and often sexual orientation). They are people whose gender identity can be both male and female, neither male nor female, or a combination of male and female.


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